And Roxana, that is how I exactly how I edit.MyWatchBegins wrote: ↑Wed Apr 19, 2023 4:21 amI am Romanian, so definitely jaded and cynical. Our response to anything is to take offence first, think laterMaybe I am just jaded or cynical.
But what if you genuinely want to help someone improve their writing? How would you put it?
Don't worry. I won't be quitting anytime soon. Trust me (as some of you well know) I have been hit with a lot worse comments than this one! LOL!
I am with you, Colleen, I think it was a catty comment.
I'm not sure you could help someone improve their writing, either in content or execution, not unless there is an existing rapport between you, a friendship.
Then you can just say it, phrasing it like 'maybe you could try...-' or something along those lines. Or 'I liked it, but couldn't help noticing ... maybe you'd want to read this or that passage again'.
That said, you should definitely NOT listen to anything I say. I come from a very non-pc country, people are direct and just say what they mean, no bush is ever beaten around and nobody takes offence. Friends are expected to give you the hard truths straight up, it's a sign of affection.
I didn't see the comment as being offensive, although, I do agree with Daisy that it was clumsy. I almost feel like it was something I might do, with good intentions. And yes, Colleen, there really was that mess in the comment section of one of your stories once...ouch. But yes, a comment from "out there" should maybe not happen at all. It does raise the hackles...like someone else telling your kid off or something (if that's something you'd rather not have happen).
And Daisy, yes, lol, that's very sweet....that is how I do it, because I didn't want to be offensive. LOL that you brought it up because, I think it's actually scary to do tell someone they made a mistake. But I could be wrong; and I've done that too, thankfully with someone I knew, but it was done in the "mimosa way" as Daisy described and as a PM, not in public.
Although, I would send it in a personal email if I could. I also think that there was to be some rapport between the author and the person noticing the issue...at least that would be preferable. I wouldn't do it to someone I don't know, I thnk.
I also notice plenty of issues, but I don't comment on them or even message people often...I guess it depends on the issue, who it is, and if it worth gently mentioning and if they'd want to know. Sometimes, it's gotta be left alone. I will sometimes ask myself if the author wants to know if they've made a mistake (or possibly made one) or if I should leave it. But if you ever want to know, let me know, and I will gently tell you in a pm, even in an amusing way as well.
(Oh, and editing eyes can be obnoxious and frustrating...just so you know...I notice things everywhere now....but realize that I'll screw up my own emails with a once over or twice over and miss many things...and I'll edit every time I come back or I'll notice it when it's been quoted elsewhere...wah...)